Reflections On: My conversation with Oscar at the Lead to Scale Show
Hello and welcome to a new series called Reflections On.
This is Reflections On: My conversation with Oscar at the Lead to Scale Show.
I do a lot of interviews with different podcast and YouTube show hosts. This series, Reflections On, is my way of deepening those conversations.
After each one, there’s always more I want to say; new ideas that come to me after listening once the episode airs. This series is a space for that continued evolution. For exploring what I’ve learned, pulling on different threads, finding new ways of expressing something I mentioned, or even admitting when I no longer agree with something I said.
This is a space for that continued evolution and cyclical growth.
Defining Success
I want to start by pulling on something Oscar and I discussed toward the end of our conversation. He asked me: “How do you define success?”
Lately, I’ve noticed a lot of conversations in the online business world about success. Specifically, how we define it. There’s a growing shift away from very rigid, binary definitions like:
● “You’re successful when you hit six figures in revenue.”
● “You’re successful when you climb the corporate ladder.”
● “You’re successful when you have the house, the two kids, and the dog.”
We’ve been conditioned to believe success can only fit into one of a few predefined molds, each tied to a socialized idea of achievement. But now, I’m seeing (and joining) a movement away from those limitations toward a more individualized, fluid definition of success.
● Maybe success is personal.
● Maybe success is dynamic, not static.
● Maybe there’s a whole world of possibilities in what success can and could be.
The old, static ideas of success never resonated with me. So I’m excited to see more conversations opening up space for new interpretations.
A Felt Experience of Success
If you haven’t listened to the episode, definitely check it out , but here’s a snapshot of what I shared:
I choose two things per day that, if I accomplish them, I feel successful.
More and more, my idea of success has become about the felt experience—what literally makes me feel successful—rather than external benchmarks like, “If I do X, then I’ll feel successful.”
Because so many of those external ideas are fantastical. They create false cause-and-effect expectations that don’t reflect reality. So instead, I ask: “What makes me feel success, right now?”
Sometimes, it’s as simple as replying to that one email I’ve been putting off. When I do it, I feel great. And that’s success. Real, embodied, everyday success.
Consistency Over a Lifetime
The deeper question that’s shaped this definition for me is: “What does it mean to have consistency over a lifetime?”
For the past nine months, I’ve been sitting with this question.
We’re often told that consistency means doing the same thing, every day, forever.
But that model doesn’t work for me and it doesn’t work for many people I talk to in my community.
So I started reframing it: What does consistency look like over a year? Over a lifetime? To explore that, I began noticing seasons (both literal and metaphorical).
Seasonal Consistency
Here’s a personal example:
When it’s cold, snowy, and dark in winter, I’m not going for a walk every day. That’s just not realistic. But that doesn’t mean I’m inconsistent or failing in my physical health.
Instead, I shift. During winter, I might lean into indoor yoga or slower, restorative activities. During summer, I walk almost daily.
Both are consistent just in different seasons of life.
When I stopped defining consistency as “every day” and zoomed out to “over a year,” I realized I’m still consistent. I’m still someone who moves my body regularly; it just looks different depending on the season.
That realization brought so much ease and release of tension.
Translating That to Business
This mindset has started to trickle into my business as well.
Bookkeeping, by nature, is cyclical. There’s an ebb and flow: Tax season starts in October, and from then through spring, the workload ramps up.
We put in more energy and effort during that season. Not because we’re “grinding,” but because that’s the natural rhythm of the work.
That doesn’t mean we’re inconsistent the rest of the year; it just means that, over time, consistency in the business looks cyclical.
Observing, Not Forcing
The first phase of this discovery has been observation: simply noticing how it feels to show up in the business during each season.
I’ve released the idea that consistency means daily execution. Instead, I’m exploring how it can mean aligned presence.
Right now, I’m narrowing down to the one or two things each day that feel truly successful. That’s been huge for me and my business.
But I know there’s more to uncover. This is an unfolding journey—a constant process of discovery.
So I’ve been asking: What does success and consistency look like over a year? Over a lifetime?
And I’m still discovering the answer
An Invitation to Reflect
So, I’ll report back as it evolves.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you:
● If you’ve redefined consistency or shifted toward a more felt experience of success, what have you discovered?
● What questions are you asking yourself?
● What reflections have surfaced for you?
That’s my invitation to you. I hope this reflection unlocks something; a new awareness, a new question, a new permission to grow at your own rhythm.
Let’s see where this goes.